TAKE CARE OF THE DETAILS: Take care of the details or take responsibility as I like to call it! Show your independence by taking matters into your own hands. This shows your level of maturity to handle matters as they come up, and they will, especially during wedding planning and creating a new homestead with your new husband. Independence is a sure sign of adulthood, and certainly mistakes will be made, but the rewards are your own. If this is your first time out on your own, living with a new spouse, then take advantage of the many online tools available with checklists and creative ideas.
PERSONAL FINANCES: Handle financial matters on your own. Don’t let your parents or in-laws pay your car insurance, etc., or provide any kind of financial assistance. You’re an adult now and can handle your own finances. No matter what the financial situation your find yourself in, delve into your financial position – together – so that you are both knowledgeable about your finances, debt, income, 401Ks, retirement plans, bank accounts, etc. There is no better way to impress the in-laws than showing them that you’ve taken the time to become knowledgeable, responsible and accountable for your own finances and you can handle your resources appropriately.
CLEANLINESS: Keep a clean home. Nothing impresses the in-laws like an organized and clean home. And no, this isn’t coming from the 1950’s, but it’s true that if you’re under the microscope in the first place, don’t give your in-laws an excuse to talk about an unkempt house or apartment . . . and that includes the yard and outdoor spaces as well! It’s best to create a checklist of common chores around the house, which one of you will be responsible for those chores, and the time set aside for maintaining the house. I have found that doing a little bit of housework each day dramatically reduces the amount of housework you have to set aside on your free time.
GENEALOGY & FAMILY HISTORY: Know the names of relatives – near and distant, old and new. Reiterating the name of a great aunt, a favored great grandmother, a late relative that everyone loved, or a past pet will let your in-laws know that you’ve taken the time to learn the family tree. You’ve listened to the stories of your significant other’s past and you’ve remembered who they are! Put the names on a family tree if that’s how you can best remember, or on post cards. There are lots of neat tools for maintaining a family tree on Pinterest.
REMEMBER IMPORTANT DATES: Send greeting cards for anniversaries, birthdays or other special events to family will always impress the in-laws. Nothing shows how much you care when you take the time to send a handwritten greeting card. Your in-laws and new family members will certainly be impressed and with every card, your growing new relationship enhanced. Sending a greeting card means that you took the time, effort and consideration into the relationship. Make sure to mail out your greeting cards before the special day, so they arrive on time.
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